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Charles Salzberg's avatar

Love this, Richard. It has a familiarity since my mom was also a college grad, NYU , while my father probably just made it through high school. The only reason they got married I think, is befall her boyfriends were in the war, while he was 4F due to having had rheumatic fever as a child. It was not a happy marriage and I remember praying that they’d divorce, but fortunately for her, he died at 52, while at a wedding dinner. Do you know how your parents met? I’m always fascinated by how these moments in time can change everything.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

So glad you liked it, Charles. They met at college. His fraternity brother was dating her best friend and introduced them.

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Joan Donaldson's avatar

What a beautiful tribute to your humble mother. I think women were not taught to talk about themselves. During the summer of 1973, I took care of an elderly woman who earned a PhD in Chemistry around 1922, one of the first women in the US to earn such a degree. Miss Bartow never married because she understood what marriage would demand. She taught at the University of Illinois

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Wow. Sounds like that could be a Donaldson novel!

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Laura O'Keefe's avatar

I suspect that this piece will hit home for many of its readers--most of them, actually. Every day I think of another question that I wish I could ask my father or my mother, gone for fourteen and fifteen years now.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

I so know what you mean, Laura!

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Nancy Harmon Jenkins's avatar

The amazing, troubled, halting lives of those we'll never really know.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

I think we have to pay homage to what-might-have-been.

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Elizabeth Godfrey's avatar

Wow! You have a way of peeling back all the layers and finding the tender core of life.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Merci!

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Judith Harmon Miller's avatar

Flight image is the center of gravity of this piece.Something in your mom’s face reminded me of a young woman I saw yesterday. She too is about to take flight.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

I saw the photo Betsy posted!

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olivier's avatar

Powerfully moving and such great writing! I absolutely love this.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Thank you, Olivier!

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