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Gary Gruber's avatar

Ohio and MIchigan in 1959. Palpable for an Ohio boy who graduated from college (Miami University in Oxford, Ohio) that same year. I grew up, or got older, in Ohio in the 40'as and 50's and your mother sounded like mine with a couple of big exceptions. She wasn't alone and had my Dad. Fortunately for me, they were a helluva good team.

I know Cranbook well and several other boarding schools where I was a teacher and later head of school. You have that environment nailed, especially from that era. As a kid, I was an OSU fan and Michigan was the big rival, always the last game of the football season. Love your stories, your love for and your skilled craft with words.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Thank you very much, Gary. You didn’t teach at Cranbrook , did you?

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Gary Gruber's avatar

No, but later taught at G P University School on the other side of Detroit. One course part time. Short lived.

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Judith Harmon Miller's avatar

The wise, specific descriptions of your writing are helpful to this wannabe writer. Add that to just reading your pieces and I learn.

Cycles: Eric just left for home in Utah after a three week stay. You sure got into a parent’s head. My mom used to say, “Too bad we can’ live our life backwards?

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Richard Goodman's avatar

I'm always glad to hear you liked something I wrote, Judy.

Parenting: I feel sometimes I'm in a perpetual state of guilt.

Have you seen some of Becky's videos from Edinburgh? Are you on Instagram?

Here's one: https://www.instagram.com/p/C-ghuQONRdf/?hl=en

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olivier's avatar

Wonderful piece, Richard. So much beauty and craft in the way you bring up these complex emotions from childhood and adulthood. I love the way you blend three perspectives into this short, moving story.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Thank you, Olivier. I so appreciate your words and thoughts. I greatly respect your response.

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olivier's avatar

Merci Richard. Short form is an art. You make it sound effortless.

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Kaylene's avatar

Very moving, Richard. Thanks for sharing your story; it resonates on both side of the ocean between adolescence and adulthood.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Thank you, Kaylene.

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Pat Willard's avatar

How this touched me, Richard! As a mother of sons having experienced realizing it's time to let go, afraid of letting go. And the son doing it too. Really got me.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Thank you, Pat. It got me, too.

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Elizabeth Godfrey's avatar

Oh, the things we could tell our younger selves---not that they would listen, even to us. You capture the self-centered adolescent so well in this poignant piece.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Thanks, Elizabeth. I am grateful for your support.

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John Hazlett's avatar

I love the way this piece seques from a focus on your feelings to a (belated) empathic understanding of your mother's feelings.

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Richard Goodman's avatar

Thanks, John. The whole thing is about sympathy.

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